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We have discovered that the primary differences are: 1 personal level of need for intimacy or connection with potential sexual partners; and 2 how relationships are configured across the spectrum of CNM lifestyle options. How we express ourselves sexually and the needed level of intimacy should be seen as a spectrum of intensity. Regardless of the preferred CNM lifestyle chosen, every person and relationship can move within the spectrum based on their current needs and desires. As you read the definitions below, keep in mind that the definitions can adjust based on the moment-in-time context a person is in based on their sexual and intimacy needs as well as within their relationship s. There is an ebb and flow to what every person needs and how they need to fulfill those needs. The individual determines who, if anyone, is permitted in their personal, sexual space and in what ways they want to be sexual, intimate, or emotionally connected, if at all.

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If you read swingers profiles, you see a lot of the same terms and phrases used by different couples. I probably became aware of it about 15 years ago in the early s. But what does it mean?

And this can cause a lot of difficulty in swinger-land. The top definition from Urban Dictionary www. Typically two good friends who have casual sex without a monogamous relationship or any kind of commitment.

In stories frequently one of the couple wants a romantic relationship and is hoping for that to develop, or maybe both other them have feelings for each other but deny it. Of course not, because there are different kinds of friends. Or a spectrum, even.

What do swingers mean by friends with benefits (fwb)

There are the swinger friends who you say hello to regularly because you attend the same parties, but you have never had an in-depth conversation with them. There are the friends that you have a sexual connection with and also a deep intellectual connection, so that you text them daily and keep each other up to date on your vanilla lives.

And finally there are the swinger friends who are all of the above, plus you admit secretly that in an alternate universe where you were either single or polyamorous, you would give them a shot as a primary relationship partner. So, you see? I frequently assert that swingers and polyamorous people are not two states of a binary, but actually are points on a spectrum.

Pure swinger: go to club, have sex with people anonymously and never meet them again. Pure polyamory: you have opened your relationship to a degree that you not only love people in addition to your spouse, but they move in, share your money and help raise your. But we need people to explain more about exactly where in the middle they mean.

I suspect that anyone who uses the term friends with benefits is referring to an ongoing relationship where they have sex, and also get to know the people as individuals. Whether it goes as far as learning about their everyday lives, or meeting family members, or being a source of emotional support is going to depend on the user of the term. So they might be emotionally relatively close to the polyamorous end of things not the moving in together part, but the part where they have emotional connections and care about each other and still use the term FWB to keep their rhetorical distance from polyamory.

That is kind of what happens in our own relationship. We have always wanted to make swinger friends who we enjoyed physically, but also shared things about our daily lives and were close friends in other ways as well.

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But we largely mean the same thing, even if we use different terms. So, what are friends with benefits in swinging? Do you agree with me? Disagree with me?

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