Setting boundaries. You have seen many married people slowly cut ties with their single friends. Is it just natural that they instantly cease to have things in common or is it a society expectation? Esther Oluka talked to Phillip Luswata, an actor, and Crystal Newman Kavulu, a radio personality, and they shared their thoughts on whether it is necessary to abandon your single friends once you get married. What is your understanding of marriage? Marriage is a stretching of friendship.
Many married women enjoy male friendships, and there is nothing wrong with it per se, but a better question to ask yourself is whether hanging out with a male friend is the best decision for the health and longevity of your marriage. Some women grew up in a household full of brothers and are used to being surrounded by men, and some women work in an office full of men, so where do you draw the line when it comes to your marriage? Having a friendship means you bond over similar interests and you have a connection with that person.
But having too much of a strong bond with another man can be risky because it could lead you to make bad decisions. For example, you could start comparing him to your husband and wonder whether he understands you better than your hubby does, which is when you enter dangerous waters.
We see it all the time with people who have chemistry. More interestingly, men reported being more attracted to their female friends than vice versa. And women were blind to the mindset of their male friends; because females generally were not attracted to their male friends, they assumed that this lack of attraction was mutual.
Of course, it can go the other way, but generally speaking, men consistently overestimated the level of attraction felt by their female friends, and women consistently underestimated the level of attraction felt by their male friends.
Men consistently overestimated the level of attraction felt by their female friends, and women consistently underestimated the level of attraction felt by their male friends.
We also see examples of this in movies and TV shows. Establish boundaries.
Think about your husband. You know what people can be like — they love speculating and gossiping — so why give them ammunition?
What if the shoe were on the other foot? Finally, how would you feel if your husband were texting another woman and invited her out alone? What if she happened to be very attractive?
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